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Are You a Serial Dieter?

My Dieting Secret

I grew up feeling massively insecure about my body. I was always a big girl, defying the height/weight charts at the pediatrician’s office. I can’t remember a time in my life when I wasn’t acutely aware of my size. 

I went on my first diet at the age of 7. It always felt like a big, shameful secret to me that I needed to lose weight. I was like a weight loss detective, scouring information from every possible source to help me "fix" the "problem" of my higher weight body.

This early introduction to the concept of restricting my eating shaped the way I saw myself, and the world around me. I learned that:

  • There are “good” and “bad” food choices
  • Less is good and more is bad
  • Candy is bad and veggies are good
  • You have to work out to compensate for your eating
  • Skinny girls get what they want in life, fat girls get left on the sideline
  • Being higher weight means you have a moral obligation to constantly be dieting

For most of my life, I wasn't actually aware that I had a problem. I thought this is just the way it was. But once I became a plus size model, I started on an incredible journey of self-discovery that lead me to interrogate how I felt about my body, and the way that I was treating my body.

A lifetime of serial dieting left me emotionally and physically drained. But I learned to turn that around!

A lifetime of serial dieting left me emotionally and physically drained. But I learned to turn that around!

The Diet Myth

I started to realize just how much of my time, money, energy, and overall resources were being directed towards weight loss, or thoughts about weight loss. As I was gradually able to shift my thinking, and therefore, my feelings and my behavior, I realized that I was able to redirect all of those resources into other things, like pursuing the career of my dreams, and creating a life that I love!

The diet myth teaches us that you have to lose weight and transform your body in order to get the things that you want in life. But this isn't the case, and I'm living proof of that! Since I've broken up with dieting, my life has radically transformed for the better.

This is possible for you too! Like with most addictive behavior, admitting that you have a problem is an important first step in rewiring yourself from a serial dieter in a woman who's radically in love with her body, and her life. Take the quiz below to come clean with yourself!

If you answered mostly "Yes" to these questions, then you might be a serial dieter. But don't fret! Now that you've identified the problem, you're well on your way to solving it!

What do you think? Are you ready to make a change from serial dieter to being radically in love with your body, and your life? Leave a comment and let me know!

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Daily Gratitude Practice with Isoke Salaam

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Daily Gratitude Practice with Isoke Salaam

Isoke Salaam is an East Coast PR girl originally from New Jersey with private clients within fashion and the arts. When not reviewing a client portfolio, typing on an iPad and answering her cell phone while balancing in heels, Isoke practices ballet, enjoys running, writing, reading, traveling and learning about art! She is a PR powerhouse, an avid art fan and a fashion lover.

Photo provided by Isoke Salaam, photograph by Maira Iqbal

Photo provided by Isoke Salaam, photograph by Maira Iqbal

I met Isoke when I became an advocate for the D.C. Humane Rescue Alliance and the 2017 Fashion for Paws event. I was instantly drawn to her because of her grace, her grit, and the way she exudes a certain calm, and connectedness that is so rare in busy, professional types these days! After getting to know her, I learned that she cultivates this through a daily gratitude practice (along with a lifetime of being an exceptional human!).

Here’s how she puts gratitude into practice every day:

1. Truly put things into perspective

Someone cuts you off in traffic. You have a less than polite coworker. Your new shoes weren't delivered on time. Are these things annoying, yes. Do they truly constitute a bad day? No. On a daily basis you should truly think about what matters and all of the things you have to be grateful for. A small issue no matter how obnoxious is not truly a bad day. Its simply an obnoxious situation. When your family is healthy,  your friends are happy and you are in a great space, what truly matters? Be aware of your mindset. Think grateful thoughts.

2. Make a grateful list every day

This is my favorite task to practice gratitude. I make a list of all of the things I am grateful for no matter how small. I typically like to write the list down but you can also type the list into your phone as a keepsake. When you have a list of 50 things that you are grateful for in front of you, it is hard not to be happy. I write down the smallest things from my new sparkly nail polish that I fell in love with to the most important thing in my life, my health.

3. Meditate anywhere

Simply close your eyes and breathe. Meditation puts you in a space that allows you to relax and truly focus. Focus on being grateful while meditating. You can meditate anywhere. Try meditating for two minutes while your car warms up in the morning or before bed each night. Make meditation a daily priority. Your grateful heart will be forever thankful!

What do you think? How are you going to put this into practice in your own life? Leave a comment below to let me know!

 

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