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Lessons from Tidying Up My Closet

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Lessons from Tidying Up My Closet

That’s right…I took the plunge and decided to KonMari my closet in January. I’m reflecting back on that experience to share the major takeaways! If you’re considering tidying up, or have started the process, read on!

In love with my closet after tidying up!

In love with my closet after tidying up!

Why Tidy?

I realized that I basically had three separate wardrobes. I had a lot of high end suiting and professional clothes from my days as a management consultant to Department of Defense clients. I also had a wardrobe full of sexy, beautiful clothes from being and plus size model and influencer. Then, in the past year, I have acquired a bunch of clothes that fit my lifestyle as a mom and freelancer, doing a little bit of consulting and modeling, but mostly being home with my baby and creating content from the kitchen table.

I decided to tidy because I wanted to reduce the amount of clothing I have to muddle through and get a handle on my wardrobe. I knew I had stuff to purge, but the sheer volume of clothing that I had to go through was truly shocking.

Little Black Dress Overload

Going through my clothes following the KonMari mehtod taught me a lot about my behavior as it relates to buying and selecting clothing. I realized that I don’t tend to shop my closet. My closet is more like a graveyard for clothes! Whenever I have an event or spot a new trend, I tend to buy something new. Going forward, I want to make more of an effort to know what I have, and shop from my own closet instead of always buying new clothes.

It’s Not About the Clothes

It’s never about what it’s about, right? Well this was true for my tidying experience as well. For me, clothes are a reflection of my own feelings of self worth. If I have a “cute” outfit it makes me feel like I matter as a human being.

This dovetails with a revelation I had recently on my postpartum fitness journey. I have been making an effort to re-establish some healthy habits, such as working out consistently and fueling my body with healthy, vibrant, and nourishing foods. As I’ve been doing this, I also realized that I really define my own self worth by my appearance. The reason I was having trouble sticking to a healthy routine is because on some deeper level, I didn’t believe that I was worthy of a healthy lifestyle because of my size.

The same is true, I’ve realized, with my wardrobe. I have been harboring very deeply rooted shame about my body for a long time. I would wager most women grapple with these feelings, even those who have a “good” body. But as a plus size woman, you had better believe that my self image was suffering!

Nothing about my body has changed after applying the KonMari method to my wardrobe. But through this process, I realized that my negative feelings about myself were driving me to buy excessive amounts of clothing. I haven’t perfectly eradicated all these feelings, but I’m exploring them through therapy and self-reflection. Now, when I get the itch to make a purchase, I know to interrogate my feelings instead of adding things to my online shopping cart. I’m hoping that I can kick my shopping-to-mask-feelings-of-inadequacy habit once and for all!

Now that my closet is organized, I want to move on and tackle the other areas covered by the KonMari method. Stay tuned for an update!

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Best Nursing Bras for Busy Moms

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Best Nursing Bras for Busy Moms

When you're a new mom, and a nursing mom, it can be really easy to feel like you're losing your identity. Whatever you did before becoming a mom, you now suddenly exist only to make milk for your perfect, albeit grouchy little piglet of a baby. In my experience, the opportunities for comfort and self care can be few and far between.

But there's good news! Finding great pieces designed to support a nursing mom can really go a long way to making you feel more like yourself. These pieces make the process of whipping out your boob on demand much easier, while also allowing you to express your identity as a woman through fashion. Remember that?!?!

I've rounded up a few of my favorite pieces for different types of activities below. Keep up with me on Instagram, where I'm always sharing new pieces and motherhood essentials that I'm discovering along the way.

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Love and Fit Strappy Back Nursing Sports Bra

Love and Fit Strappy Back Nursing Sports Bra

Kindred Bravely Marvella Classic Maternity & Nursing Underwire Free T-Shirt Bra

Kindred Bravely Marvella Classic Maternity & Nursing Underwire Free T-Shirt Bra

Medela Women's Slimming Nursing Cami with Removable Pads

Medela Women's Slimming Nursing Cami with Removable Pads

Medela Women's Slimming Nursing Cami with Removable Pads

Kindred Bravely French Terry Racerback Nursing & Sleep Bra

What pieces are getting you through this phase of life? Leave a comment below to let me know!

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