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Lessons from Tidying Up My Closet


Lessons from Tidying Up My Closet

That’s right…I took the plunge and decided to KonMari my closet in January. I’m reflecting back on that experience to share the major takeaways! If you’re considering tidying up, or have started the process, read on!

In love with my closet after tidying up!

In love with my closet after tidying up!

Why Tidy?

I realized that I basically had three separate wardrobes. I had a lot of high end suiting and professional clothes from my days as a management consultant to Department of Defense clients. I also had a wardrobe full of sexy, beautiful clothes from being and plus size model and influencer. Then, in the past year, I have acquired a bunch of clothes that fit my lifestyle as a mom and freelancer, doing a little bit of consulting and modeling, but mostly being home with my baby and creating content from the kitchen table.

I decided to tidy because I wanted to reduce the amount of clothing I have to muddle through and get a handle on my wardrobe. I knew I had stuff to purge, but the sheer volume of clothing that I had to go through was truly shocking.

Little Black Dress Overload

Going through my clothes following the KonMari mehtod taught me a lot about my behavior as it relates to buying and selecting clothing. I realized that I don’t tend to shop my closet. My closet is more like a graveyard for clothes! Whenever I have an event or spot a new trend, I tend to buy something new. Going forward, I want to make more of an effort to know what I have, and shop from my own closet instead of always buying new clothes.

It’s Not About the Clothes

It’s never about what it’s about, right? Well this was true for my tidying experience as well. For me, clothes are a reflection of my own feelings of self worth. If I have a “cute” outfit it makes me feel like I matter as a human being.

This dovetails with a revelation I had recently on my postpartum fitness journey. I have been making an effort to re-establish some healthy habits, such as working out consistently and fueling my body with healthy, vibrant, and nourishing foods. As I’ve been doing this, I also realized that I really define my own self worth by my appearance. The reason I was having trouble sticking to a healthy routine is because on some deeper level, I didn’t believe that I was worthy of a healthy lifestyle because of my size.

The same is true, I’ve realized, with my wardrobe. I have been harboring very deeply rooted shame about my body for a long time. I would wager most women grapple with these feelings, even those who have a “good” body. But as a plus size woman, you had better believe that my self image was suffering!

Nothing about my body has changed after applying the KonMari method to my wardrobe. But through this process, I realized that my negative feelings about myself were driving me to buy excessive amounts of clothing. I haven’t perfectly eradicated all these feelings, but I’m exploring them through therapy and self-reflection. Now, when I get the itch to make a purchase, I know to interrogate my feelings instead of adding things to my online shopping cart. I’m hoping that I can kick my shopping-to-mask-feelings-of-inadequacy habit once and for all!

Now that my closet is organized, I want to move on and tackle the other areas covered by the KonMari method. Stay tuned for an update!



Workout Like a Mother

Here's how to get over that hump of getting back into physical activity after having a baby! Read on to learn how I've been showing my body love through movement since little Sammi came along.

Start Small

When I first starting getting active again, right around the six weeks postpartum mark, I started with very low intensity, quick exercises to re-engage my core and pelvic floor. I looked up videos on Diastasis Recti and Pelvic Floor recovery to get ideas, and just did them while lying next to Sammi while she had tummy time on the floor.

Over time, I built up to taking long walks and going to intense vinyasa flow yoga classes. But that didn't happen right away! You have to give your body time to get used to movement again, and achieve some small, short term goals to build your confidence back up.

I have loved the Sweat app postpartum fitness track as part of my postpartum fitness journey because it starts you off small and builds you back in very gradually, almost too gradually. This was the way that I eventually found myself tackling bigger fitness challenges again.

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Be Consistent

It's hard to be consistent at anything when you have a newborn. But if you really set the intention to carve out time for movement a few times a week, you CAN do it! Sometimes I would just hand my husband the baby when he walked in the door and get it done. Or do it after the baby had gone to bed, or during nap time. 

Sometimes I fell short of my goals or fell out of consistency. But I always drew myself back into the routine once I'd fallen off. The key is to keep setting goals, keep doing your best to achieve them, and--even when you fail!--keep trying to do better next time!

Practice Makes Progress

Perfection? Nope, not ever. Progress? All the damn time!

Instead of trying to do the perfect workout in the perfect way at the perfect time in the perfect outfit to get perfect results, just do the best you can. Some days, I get to the gym and the only thing I can bring myself to do is watch HGTV on the elliptical. That's not as good as a strength workout and some interval training, but it's better than nothing.

The single most important skill you are learning as a mom is how to deal with imperfection. Just because one feeding, or diaper change, or bath time, or sleep training session goes poorly, do you abandon your baby and never attempt to care for her again? Of course not!

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So why is this our tendency when it comes to our bodies? Give yourself some of the love, and grace, and nurturing that you're giving your baby. Just like your baby, you're learning lots of new things, having new experiences, and leaving the comfort of what it meant to be a woman before your baby came along. You're doing the best you can, and that's the most anyone can (or should!) ask for!

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