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This is what the #healthyatanysize movement is all about!

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This is what the #healthyatanysize movement is all about!

For years we've all been told the same things:

Melinda Parrish, creator of the #healthyatanysize movement.

Melinda Parrish, creator of the #healthyatanysize movement.

  • Eat less
  • Eat less sugar
  • Eat more vegetables
  • Lose weight
  • Gain muscle
  • Hit the treadmill

These things are the key to having a body you love. Because loving your body is all about changing your body, right? But what if I told you that you've been lied to?

What if I told you that behind these messages is a billion dollar diet industry that wants to keep you locked in a perpetual pursuit of a "perfect" body? A definition of perfection that doesn't exist without expensive surgery, supplements, and access to an arsenal of nutrition and fitness professionals.

The key to transforming your relationship with your body is actually something much, much simpler. It doesn't come in a pill form or require you to subscribe to a weekly workout regimen. The secret to loving your body isn't changing your body--it's changing how you feel about your body!

Once you do this, you can learn how to really take care of your body, not just grind it out in pursuit of an unattainable standard of perfection.

I'm Melinda Parrish, a plus size model and body positivity advocate. I'm also a lifelong athlete and former Naval Officer. I went on my first diet at the age of 7.

I’ve had food issues since I can remember, and I've struggled with binge eating disorder and bulimia. For years, I beat my body up trying to become the kind of woman I thought I needed to be in order to love my body, and have a life I loved.

I treated my body this way for decades. After multiple back surgeries, my disordered behavior around eating, and trying every diet under the sun, I've learned that the old way--the way we were brought up believing--is a lie.

We need a revolution!

This isn't just about liking what we see in the mirror. Feeling bad about your body as a woman can hold you back in every single area of your life.

Studies have found that 85% of women are opting out of life experiences because of how they feel about their bodies. This is a Body Love crisis!

You were not put on this earth to stand on the sidelines of your own life, waiting to be good enough to get in the game and start living it.

Stop fixating on changing your body. Transform how you feel about your body instead! So that you can step into the life of the woman you have always dreamed of becoming, and have a relationship with your body based on love, respect, and appreciation. Not self-loathing, fear, and deprivation.

Holding back on life can stop right now, today. Ditch your hang-ups with your body, and start living at full amplitude!

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Shut Down Body Shamers with this One Line

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Shut Down Body Shamers with this One Line

Originally published February 23, 2017 on the Huffington Post.

“Spending your money on shoes and handbags is irresponsible.”

“Those spiritual meditation classes you go to are stupid.”

“Your kid is a whiny brat because you don’t discipline him.”

Even reading these comments may feel like a punch in the stomach. And for good reason: they are completely out-of-line.

We've all been taught the golden rule--do unto others as you would have them do unto you. This is the principle behind the saying, "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."

This is one of the most basic principles that our society operates on. You probably learned it before you learned to tie your shoes.

But when it comes to plus size women's bodies, their health, and their choices, it seems like our society has completely brain-dumped this rule. People feel entitled to make really intrusive comments, and to provide unsolicited opinions, when it comes to our bodies.

And frankly, it's rude.

We can all acknowledge that it’s inappropriate to comment bluntly on someone else’s finances, religion, or parenting style. Why, then, do some people still find it appropriate to make very blunt, pointed statements about the bodies of plus size women?

“You have joint pain because you’re overweight.”

“You should spend your time differently and put your health first.”

“Those clothes don’t flatter your body, you should cover up more.”

These statements are also out-of-line, and feel like a punch in the stomach when made to plus size women.

People might mean well when they comment on your body, your health, and your choices. But the truth is that making comments like the ones listed above is rude, intrusive, and disrespectful. Plus size women have a right to be treated better.

I’ve dealt with this personally, and I’ve figured out how to politely but firmly shut down people who feel the need to make remarks like this. It’s not complicated, it’s not scathing, it’s not witty. But when you say it firmly, with respect for yourself and for the one who needs to hear it, it’s extremely powerful:

“It’s my body, my health, my choices ― and those are none of your business.”

Sometimes it’s our family members that need to hear this. Sometimes it’s our romantic partners or spouses, which is heartbreaking to even consider. Sometimes it’s our friends, or coworkers, or yoga instructors.

The bottom line is that unless you explicitly ask someone for their opinion, they shouldn’t be giving it to you.

And just like when your friend shows you her heinous kitchen remodel that she just dropped $50,000.00 on, even then it is sometimes more polite and respectful for people to consider your feelings, and your humanity, before responding too bluntly or honestly.

You deserve that. And if you’re not getting it, all you have to do is ask for it.

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