Originally published on April 21, 2016 on the Huffington Post.

You are enough.

You don’t need to have anything else, or to do anything else, or to lose any more weight, or to gain any more skills or accolades in order to be enough. You have everything you need right now, today. Enough to just be okay, or to begin, or to let go and take the leap. You. Right now. Enough.

Melinda Parrish, Plus Size Model

It can be easy to get caught up in a cycle of delaying a state of being, or a step forward, or a release of something that you’re ready to let go of until “X” happens.

You lose 10 pounds.
You get a Master’s Degree.
Or a boyfriend.
You make a souffle without the top collapsing.
You pay off your credit card.
You learn to play the cello.

None of these things are bad to do, and you should certainly keep striving to be debt free, and to expand your mind, and to try new things. But your happiness, and your worthiness, are not contingent upon these achievements. You don’t need anything in your life propping you up—like a partner you really know in your gut isn’t right for you—until you cross another achievement off your list. You have what you need to apply for the job, or sign up for the half marathon, or move to California . . .

Read the rest on the Huffington Post!