How I Blew $10,000 on Dieting in 10 Years with Cassie Parks

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How I Blew $10,000 on Dieting in 10 Years with Cassie Parks

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If I had to quantify my investment in diet and weight loss products in the past ten years, I would estimate that it’s somewhere in the neighborhood of $10,000. In this episode, I share the nitty gritty details of how I got to that number, and how it adds up quicker than you might realize!

Cassie Parks

Cassie Parks

You might be shocked by that number. You might think, “That will never be me.” However, we as a society spend over $60 Billion per year on dieting and weight loss. So, I know that I’m definitely not alone in this, which is why I’m laying it all out there for others to learn from my experience.

This week’s guest, money manifesting expert Cassie Parks, is a bestselling author of multiple books, many of which are on the subject of how to manifest the life and financial situation you desire, such as Manifest $10,000. In my conversation with her, we unpack the reasons so many of us tend to give our money away unconsciously based on our feelings of unworthiness, rather than investing our money intentionally from a place of abundance!

Learn the sneaky ways you might be parting with your money without realizing it, and unconsciously funding the dieting industry rather than creating the financial situation (and life) of your dreams! Also, how to turn that around.

Key takeaways:

  • The sneaky ways we give our money away to the dieting industry

  • The exact breakdown of the $10,000 I spent on dieting and weight loss--you might be surprised how many of these things are in your monthly spend, as well!

  • Cassie Parks’s tips on how to go from being a mindless spender to a conscious investor

  • Why many of our diet and weight loss purchases are motivated by our own feelings of unworthiness

  • Other places in our lives that this type of mindless spending might show up, outside of diet and weight loss

  • Why understanding how you want to feel should be at the root of your investment decisions

  • How to pivot from mindlessly spending money on diet and weight loss to consciously investing in your physical health and well-being

Mentioned in this episode:

Cassie Parks and her book, Manifest $10,000

Mint.com

How much Americans spend on dieting each year

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Create the Happy, Healthy Life of Your Dreams with Kopari Beauty Co-founder Kiana Cabell

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Create the Happy, Healthy Life of Your Dreams with Kopari Beauty Co-founder Kiana Cabell

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So many of us are striving to create the lives (and the bodies) that we love. But it can get discouraging, because it seems like we’re inundated with examples of women who are having to compromise their health and well-being in order to achieve success in their career, and vice versa. Is it really possible to be successful in business, engaged in your community and family life, and live a healthy lifestyle?

Kopari Beauty co-founder Kiana Cabell

Kopari Beauty co-founder Kiana Cabell

Kiana Cabell, co-founder of Kopari Beauty, is an example that shows us we can have it all! She is an example of a woman achieving low-key, high velocity entrepreneurial and life success. As she prepares to become a mom (like me!), Kiana and I caught up to talk all about how she got to where she is today.

Kiana shares her take on balance when it comes to food, business, and life. She shares how her upbringing on the beaches of Hawaii, and her passion for healthy, natural ingredients shaped her as a person, and as a founder. She talks about the road to success for her brand, which is really cementing its place in the beauty industry, and disrupting long-held notions about what we should expect from natural, organic products.

There’s so much wisdom Kiana shares here that we can all apply to our own experiences!

Key takeaways:

  • Kiana’s childhood, growing up in Hawaii and being raised by her pro surfer (and founder of Chart House restaurants) Dad

  • Kiana’s studies as a chef at a traditional culinary school, and then NYC’s Natural Gourmet Institute

  • How Kiana applies a balanced approach to exercise and food choices

  • Hypnobirthing classes and the ways that Kiana is preparing for motherhood

  • Kiana’s long-time love affair with coconut oil, and how Kiana got her start as an entrepreneur

  • The wisdom of staying low-key when you’re in the process of creating something

  • The importance of surrounding yourself with the right partners, in business and life

  • Failing forward, and how Kiana’s been able to turn every challenge into learning

  • Why delegating is key to Kiana’s formula for success

  • Believing in yourself, and not letting yourself get in your own way, is the key to creating a  business and lifestyle you love! Go for it.

Mentioned in this episode:

Kopari Beauty

Kiana’s legendary Dad

The Natural Gourmet Institute in NYC

Hypnobirthing

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Speak Out: I’m Sharing My History with Bulimia and Binge Eating Disorder in the Military in the Hopes that You’ll Speak Out, Too

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Speak Out: I’m Sharing My History with Bulimia and Binge Eating Disorder in the Military in the Hopes that You’ll Speak Out, Too

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I was struggling with a combination of binge eating disorder and bulimia while I attended the Naval Academy from 2003 - 2007. My experience as a woman in uniform, and an NCAA Division I athlete for the Naval Academy, were directly related to the development of my eating disorder.

Midshipman 1/C Melinda M. Parrish, USNA Class of 2007

Midshipman 1/C Melinda M. Parrish, USNA Class of 2007

As a disclaimer, I’m a huge supporter of the military and am incredibly honored to have served. I have deep reverence for the military and everyone serving. I’m not sharing my story to cast blame upon the military, or to paint this organization, which I hold in incredibly high esteem, in a negative light. But the reality is that many women have suffered and continue to suffer, as I did. 34% of women in the military suffer from eating disorders.

Ultimately, my eating disorder is what led to me being (honorably) medically discharged from military service in 2008. But you won’t see anything about an eating disorder anywhere in my medical or service records. It’s through my recovery, years later, that I’ve come to understand the connection between my disordered behavior and the injury which ended my naval career.

My experience is unique in its specifics, but not unique to women in the military. Our military is in crisis because such a high number of individuals serving are struggling with eating disorders. We as a country miss out when women end their term of service prematurely (like I did), or aren’t able to serve at their full capacity, because they are battling an eating disorder. Now that we know this, we can begin to address it! And that starts with increasing funding for treatment, research, prevention, and awareness of eating disorders for those in uniform.

The entire military suffers when as many as 34% of its service women are at a limited capacity due to illness. That’s why I’m testifying before members of congress on September 28, 2017 alongside a panel of experts, so I can use my experiences to better life for so many women still serving.

This isn’t just me telling my story. It’s a call to action! Shame feeds on silence, and shame keeps us trapped when it comes to issues like eating disorders. I want you to join me in speaking out about the things you’re struggling with when it comes to your weight, your body, and food. Let’s banish shame and create a new way forward for ourselves and other women!

Key takeaways:

  • Brené Brown’s formula for shame

  • Why I’m speaking out and sharing my story so publicly

  • The ways the food and eating were stigmatized for me during my time in the military

  • Why I turned to eating large amounts of food in secret to cope with my environment

  • The first time I binged and purged

  • Ways that I pushed my body to extremes to counteract my binge eating

  • The single event that changed the course of my entire life

  • Why this problem, which impacts 34% of women in the service, is truly a problem for 100% of the military

  • The ways that NEDA and the EDC are working to address these issues, and what you can do to help!

Mentioned in this episode:

National Eating Disorders Association

Eating Disorders Council

Speaker, Author and Researcher Brené Brown

Healthy at Any Size podcast, Episode 3

The Reality of Struggling with Binge Eating Disorder in the Military

The “Weakest Link”

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Body Love NOW! Why loving your body matters more than ever with Kelly Augustine

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Body Love NOW! Why loving your body matters more than ever with Kelly Augustine

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Kelly Augustine is one of the leading voices in the body positivity and plus size fashion conversation right now. Recently, she was featured in a national television & print #thenewskinny campaign for Lane Bryant, which only solidifies her rank as one of the most influential bloggers in this community!

Kelly Augustine

In this episode, Kelly and I discuss the importance of us using our voices as women, particularly with all the political turmoil we’ve experienced as a nation this past summer. Kelly is very outspoken, and does a great job voicing her opinion while keeping her message and overall presence positive, empowering, and inclusive.

The conversation about our bodies, and how we as women should be treated in the world, is more important now than ever before. Kelly shares how she’s navigating the conversation, the importance of choosing your words wisely on social media, and where she’s finding inspiration and positivity these days.

We also cover the increasingly blurred lines between models slash bloggers, her making the leap to freelancing, and why more brands need to start featuring visibly plus size women in their campaigns. And Kelly shares all her go-to resources for information, fashion, beauty, and inspiration!

There’s so much to learn from Kelly that we as women can all apply to our everyday lives.

Key takeaways:

  • Kelly’s recent Lane Bryant #thenewskinny campaign and her success as a plus size fashion blogger

  • How the political turmoil of the summer has impacted the conversation we’re having about our bodies as women

  • What influencers like Kelly are doing to infuse more positivity into the world during heartbreaking world events

  • The importance of using our voice as individuals to comment on troubling world events

  • Choosing our words carefully when it comes to the content that we put out into the world

  • Being over 30 in the modeling industry, and the increasingly blurred lines between being a blogger / influencer and a model

  • Why more brands should be featuring more body diversity, and showcasing visibly plus size women, in their campaigns

  • Kelly’s go-to brands for information, fashion, beauty, and inspiration

  • The importance of protecting our sanity in this age of information overload

Mentioned in this episode:

Kelly’s Lane Bryant #thenewskinny campaign

Vice’s coverage of the Charlottesville tragedy

Models slash influencers Alex LaRosa, Candice Huffine, Ashley Graham, Philomena Kwao

Eloquii’s extended sizing lookbooks, the launch of Preme, Asos’s representation of visibly plus size models, and Glossier’s range of skin tones

Kelly’s “go-to” brands for information, fashion, beauty, and inspiration: Elvi, NYDJ, Asos, Fashion to Figure, Refinery29, Glossier

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Plus Size Fashion is Moving Forward: NYFW panel with Lisa Aviva, See Rose Go, and Jaanuu Scrubs

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If you’re a plus size woman like me, you know how frustrating it can be to find clothing that’s comfortable, fits well, is made from quality materials, and is also stylish, reflective of your own personal aesthetic. Sometimes, it feels like the fashion industry just doesn’t care.

But as someone who has the privilege to interact with those behind-the-scenes of many fashion brands in my role as a plus size model, I know that this is far from true! Lots of designers care deeply about giving plus size women what they want, and are working hard to make that happen.

In honor of New York Fashion Week, currently underway, I’ve assembled a panel of fashion design insiders from the plus size fashion world to talk about the challenges (and joys!) of bringing gorgeous, high-quality, and functional fashion to plus size shoppers. Because from my perspective, the purpose of fashion is make sure we can all leave the house feeling amazing, so we can go out there and do our great work in the world!

Some of the women you’ll hear from in this episode, like Lisa Aviva, I’ve worked with and know personally. Others, like Erin Cavanaugh and Yi Zhou from See Rose Go, and Shireen Jamehdor of Jaanuu Scrubs, I’m getting to know right along with you, listeners! Whether or not you’re a plus size fashion insider, it’s fascinating to hear about the journey these women go on behind-the-scenes, and what inspires them to create. The plus size fashion world is moving forward! And these are some of the ladies making that transformation a reality.

Key takeaways:

  • How these brands got started

  • What inspired the brands, and the women who are creating the clothing, to take on the challenge of bringing fashionable, high-quality, functional clothing to plus size shoppers

  • The financial challenges of starting a fashion line

  • The technical, manufacturing, and production challenges of creating a fashion line for plus size shoppers

  • What these women each see as the #1 thing needed to move plus size fashion forward

  • The brands that these women are looking to currently, who are doing a great job of moving fashion forward for plus size shoppers

  • What’s on the horizon for each of these women, and the brands they represent

Mentioned in this episode:

Lisa Aviva

See Rose Go

Jaanuu Scrubs

Universal Standard

Elloquii

Torrid

Lane Bryant

Plus size subscription services, like Gwynnie Bee, Dia & Co., and Trunk Club for plus

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You Don’t Have to Lose Weight to Have a Body and a Life you Love! with Lauren O’Leary

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You Don’t Have to Lose Weight to Have a Body and a Life you Love! with Lauren O’Leary

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So many of us have grown up buying into the diet myth, which teaches us that we have to lose weight and get a “perfect” body in order to have the life of our dreams. But for curve model, top beauty influencer, and makeup artist Lauren O’Leary, the exact opposite has been true!

Rather than putting off living the life of her dreams until she felt she had the perfect body, she decided to learn how to accept the body she had. Lauren cultivated a more loving, positive mindset about herself and her body. This has proven to be jet fuel for her in achieving her career goals and creating a life that she loves!

In this episode, Lauren opens up her beautiful heart and shares about her eating disorder, her recovery and the ways that she healed herself, and her rise to success as a makeup artist, beauty influencer, and curve model. Lauren is such an amazing person, inside and out, with lots of insights and inspiration to offer us all! She’s living proof that you don’t have to necessarily lose weight in order to have a body and a life that you love.

Photo provided by Lauren O'Leary | Left: Lauren in the throws of her eating disorder. Right: Lauren in a recent modeling photo.

Photo provided by Lauren O'Leary | Left: Lauren in the throws of her eating disorder. Right: Lauren in a recent modeling photo.

Key takeaways:

  • How I met Lauren O’Leary, and some of the projects we’ve done together

  • When Lauren first became uncomfortable in her body, as her eating disorder developed

  • Lauren’s process of recovery from her eating disorder, and how she healed herself

  • The one realization the really fueled Lauren’s rise to a healthier relationship with her body, as well as success in the beauty industry, and life in NYC

  • Becoming a curve model with TRUE Model Management

  • The amazing companies & celebrities that Lauren has gotten to work with

  • The secret to staying grounded with all of the success Lauren is experiencing in her career

Mentioned in this episode:

Lauren O’Leary Beauty

Lauren O’Leary Instagram

TRUE Model Management

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Struggling to Lose Weight? You Might Be a Perfectionist! [EXPLICIT]

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Many of us fall victim to the “all or nothing” mentality when it comes to our efforts to lose weight, or get healthy. As someone in recovery from perfectionism, from multiple back surgeries, from an eating disorder, and from subscribing to other people’s standards for my body, this is something I’ve had a great deal of personal experience with.

Healthy at Any Size

If you had asked me 10 years ago if I was a perfectionist, I probably would have said, “fuck no.” I didn’t see myself as a perfectionist because I thought that being a perfectionist means that you are perfect. But I began to slowly recognize the ways that I was sabotaging my own success by holding myself to incredibly high standards.

In this episode I share my own personal journey to acknowledge, and overcome, my own perfectionism. I’ve learned how to harness my tendency to set really aggressive goals, and hold myself to a very high standard. Now, it’s your turn!

Key takeaways:

  • Episode 002, with Robyn Downs, brought up this topic and is an excellent primer for this topic!

  • Trying too hard to do things perfectly means you sometimes don’t do them at all

  • Perfectionists aren’t necessarily people that are “perfect”

  • Unrealistic standards of body “perfection” are perfectionist kryptonite

  • The hard fall from “badass” female athlete to a gimp recovering from back surgery

  • The start / stop, perfectionist method to recovering from multiple back surgeries (not recommended)

  • The nasty things we tell ourselves when we don’t attain perfection

  • Internalizing “failure” to achieve perfect standards robs you of the chance to make gradual improvement

  • Experimentation and failing forward are key to creating a life, a routine, and an experience that feels good to you

  • Perfection doesn’t enable your success, it can actually hinder it!

  • How I’ve managed to harness my perfectionist tendencies to create positive change

Mentioned in this episode:

Healthy at Any Size podcast Episode 002

Robyn Downs, of Real Food Whole Life and The Feel Good Effect

My history with eating disorders

My recovery from multiple back surgeries

Gouveia International Talent Management

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Healthy living for the real world! with Robyn Downs

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Healthy living for the real world! with Robyn Downs

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Robyn Downs

Robyn Downs is the researcher, educator, storyteller and mama behind her blog, Real Food Whole Life and The Feel Good Effect podcast!

She is a working mom and a woman in the real world who is trying to balance the demands of her life with creating a healthy lifestyle for herself and her family.

In this episode, Robyn shares her own personal journey to creating this healthy balance. She encourages us all to examine our goals in a different way, to let go of perfectionism, and to infuse all of our self-improvement efforts with an oft-overlooked success factor: self-compassion!

Key takeaways:

  • Robyn’s journey to a healthy pregnancy, and getting healthy during early mom life

  • By walking away from something, you give yourself the space to say yes to something else

  • Taking those small steps builds momentum to be able to say, “this isn’t serving me anymore”

  • The two main challenges for women trying to live a healthy lifestyle

  • Moving away from someone else’s prescriptive plan of perfection

  • Setting incremental goals as opposed to always aiming for perfection

  • Living with that shame spiral and guilt of not being able to achieve “perfection”

  • Self-compassion as jet fuel for your transformation

  • Changing your mindset so that you can actually be happy right now!

  • Modeling the behavior we want our children to exhibit when it comes to how we talk about our bodies

  • Cutting ourselves off from any influences (magazines, social media, etc.) that feed our negative self-perception

Mentioned in this episode:

Real Food Whole Life

The Feel Good Effect

How to Create a Wellness Routine (with Goal Setting Activity)

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The Revolution of Loving Your Body

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Most of my life I’ve been a “serial dieter.” I went on my first diet when I was 7 years old. From that time, I was concerned about food, my body and my weight. I’ve spent thousand of dollars on dieting and, most tragically, I’ve deprived myself of life experiences.

Two nights before my wedding I had, what I call, my “bathtub moment.” This was an epiphany that transformed the way I viewed my body, and it changed my world.

As I was taking a bath that night, I had this overwhelming feeling of worthlessness. I imagined being in my wedding gown, overweight, ugly and standing in front of all my closest friends and family.

After a flood of negative self-talk, I had a moment of clarity. I realized all the hype about dieting, toning, losing weight and having perfection was not real. Fixating on having a perfect body was robbing me of so much joy. Why was I letting this obsession get in the way of living a full, purposeful life?

Three months after my “bathtub moment,” I signed my New York modeling contract. I decided to accept, embrace and love my body. That decision changed my life. It was finally okay to be happy, ambitious and excel in my life.

In recent years, Dove has conducted studies revealing 85% of women and 79% of girls are opting out of life experiences because they are self-conscious about their bodies. I believe this is a crisis. It’s been proven through many studies that when women are contributing to society, everything improves. I can’t be idle when the world needs confident women.

I don’t think we need to stop improving our bodies, and I am not saying losing weight is bad. All I am saying is it is time to transform the way we think and feel about our bodies. If we change the way we feel about our bodies, we are capable of transforming any aspect of our life.

I am passionate about sharing the truth I’ve discovered; the truth that we don’t have to change our bodies to be happy. Today is the first episode of Healthy at any Size. It will be the first of many, and together we can start a body revolution by choosing to embrace the beautiful, organic bodies we have.

I am excited  to be able to share this podcast with you, I hope you will embark on the journey of finding happiness in the body you have now. You can also join the conversation on Twitter, @melparrishplus, find us on Body Love TV and, of course, join us here at melparrish.com next week.

Key takeaways:

[:11] You deserve to live a happy healthy life.
[2:32] The secret to loving your body is changing how you feel about your body.
[3:05] Melinda Parrish introduction.
[4:25] It is time for a revolution. It is time to stop letting the way we feel about our body hold us back.
[6:14] Stop fixating on having a perfect body.
[7:23] Healthy at any Size was born from Body Love TV, it was built from the desire to dig deeper into some of the conversations we were having.
[8:20] How many of you have put something off “until you lose the weight”?
[10:19] Being happy with your body does not mean not taking care of your body. The changes you want to make must start with you loving your body.
[13:14] You can live a healthy lifestyle without focusing on weight loss.
[13:35] Any kind of transformation (including weight loss) must start with self-love.
[15:04] Review of the cycle of deprivation, dieting, binging, weight gain, and spending money on dieting.
[17:39] The transformation in how I viewed my body happend two nights before my wedding.
[20:29] The decision to accept, embrace, and love my body.
[22:42] Shift your focus to helping others and fulfill your purpose in life.
[24:58] We deserve to be in love with our bodies!
[27:19] You get the choice to contribute to the crisis or contribute to the solution.

Mentioned in this episode:

Melinda Parrish
@melparrishplus
Body Love TV
Dove
Dove Body Image Research
National Eating Disorders Association
Confessions of a Recovering Fat Kid

Tweetables:

“I don’t believe that you were put on this earth to stand on the sidelines of your own life.”

“You don’t need to change your body in order to get a life that you love.”

“Your success is contingent upon you deciding to love your body.”

“I don’t think that anybody needs to lose weight in order to live an aspirational lifestyle.”

“We really need the good people of this world to rise up.”

“It is absolutely time to claim our bodies and move forward, even if we’re not perfect.”

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